Wisdom from "The Path to Love"

I just finished reading Deepak Chopra's book, "The Path to Love, spiritual strategies for healing."  In it I found some meaningful and beautiful words that I want to share with anyone who is healing their heart and learning to be in a relationship.

-When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every conflict you wage is an excuse not to face a conflict within.
-When you truly find love, you find yourself.
-Once you are in a committed relationship, falling in love is over: Being in love begins.
- Surrender is the door to passion.
-Passion= Letting go of yourself to be swept away on the river of life, which is eternal and never ending.
-Spirit is love.
-Vedic metaphor: Every person is a piece of gold. If you were a watch or a ring, you could say "I am a ring, watch chain, etc." But these are just shapes. In truth, you are just gold- that is your essence, no matter the shape.
-You are the universe.
-Reality is a mirror of the soul.
_Speak your heart. Remain truthful. Be Open.
-You can never give more love than you have to give.
-You cannot receive more love than you are prepared to receive.
-Sadhana= the path to self.
-Love is not separate from anything in life. it is not divided into moments of love or levels of love or amounts or absences of love.
-You will never feel better about yourself by making others look worse.
-Ananda= ecstacy of love, bliss consciousness, more than the most intense erotic pleasure.
-Romance is the ability to see yourself as lovable.
-Physical beauty is temporary.
-Equality is the first step to acceptance. Acceptance is love.
-Don't overlook the spirit and love that surround you!!!!!!
-Attune yourself to spirit and it will speak to you in love.
- Courtship is where two lovers decide to persue new reality or return to the old. There are two futures at stake.
-Fear is projected onto the present by memory. There is nothing to fear in the present.
-The ego's uncertainty is an illusion, uncertainty is the basis of life.
- The word always is false idea. At any moment you have the power to break out of what is truly trapping you.
-Spirit has a good outcome if you open yourself up to it.
-No One ever solved a situation by panicking, refusing to hear new answers or shutting down.
-All emotions come from inside us. The things in the outside world are only triggers to our inner worlds. working on the world inside ourselves is the most important step.
-Asking to be loved is not shameful.
-Spirit is always with me. It wants to lift my pain. It does this not by abolishing painful memories, but by putting me in the present, where the past does not exist.
-LISTEN TO YOUR HEART
-Being shown a gesture of love is like being shown a portion of god.
-Control is not love. Controlling behaviors = perfectionism, stubbornism, intolerance, being disappointed when expectations are not met, false expectations. Possessiveness, greed, angry at opposition or confrontation.
-Control is based on spiritual desperation. Replace controlling with allowing.
-Choose the sacred over the mundane.
-Remove projections: If you cannot trust your spouse, you cannot trust yourself.
-When you are able to see yourself in whatever you hate, you come closer to realizing that what you hate the most in others you most strongly deny in yourself.